Conversation Topics for a First Date

If you just met someone interesting, it’s important to have some good conversation topics for a first date. You don’t want your first date to be full of awkward silence or uncomfortable discussion, and neither do they! So keep some good topics for conversation in mind — both you and your date will probably be thankful.

first date conversation topicsBefore we get into the actual topics, a few basic ground rules:

Don’t try to “force” a conversation or awkwardly fill silences.

You want to keep the conversation going naturally. But, a natural part of many romantic conversations is not talking. Accept silences when they come, keep the conversation healthy and natural.

Awkward, embarassing moments happen to everyone. Turn them into jokes!

Don’t be afraid of the occasional awkward moment. They happen. Turn uncomfortable gaffes (yours or theirs) into a laugh, this can make all the difference.

When it comes to the actual conversation, a tried and true topic is the other person’s life. It’s not particularly original but try asking about where they grew up, whether they have siblings, and what they do for a living.

These kinds of questions help your date feel you’re interested in them as a person. Better yet, they lead to many additional conversation topics — you can go from their job to asking them what it’s like to work in a given profession, or ask them what it’s like to live in any cities they mention.

Another good, solid topic is their hobbies and interests. Most people have at least a few interests outside of work and they can make for hours of excellent conversation. If you or your date know a particular topic (like philosophy or dogs) very well, that can make for a fascinating and stimulating conversation that really helps you get to know each other better.

first date conversationsOn the other hand, a few things should never be allowed to come up in conversation. Questions about exes, whether ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends, are off-putting and specific questions even more so. The reason for this is simple: they are on a date with you, and not their ex. Stirring up these old memories may make the date memorable, but in the wrong kind of way!

The same goes for your own exes. Don’t talk about your former lovers, since your date is hoping you’re interested in them — they don’t want to hear all the gruesome details from your previous relationships.

Along these lines, politics and religion are probably out also unless you realize you’re both quite open minded. Bringing up either of these can drive a wedge between the two of you before you’ve even begun to get together.

The bottom line is the best conversation topics for a first date are those that let you chat idly but which also give you an opportunity to reveal a bit about yourselves to one another.